Are you playing to win or playing to not lose.
Aren’t they the same thing? No way. Most people play not to lose, in order to avoid fear or pain.
I’ll play, as long as I don’t get hurt.
They will go all the way out to the edge of their comfort zone…and stop. When you play to not lose, you let fear stop you dead in your tracks. Fear of rejection, failure, successs, disapproval, not measuring up, being uncomfortable, making a mistake, getting hurt, or looking foolish.
Anytime you hear yourself say, “I can’t,” what you really mean is, “I’m afraid.”
Wildly successful people play to win.
They love winning far more than they hate losing.
They focus on winning.
They do not focus on “not losing.”
And here’s a secret lots of people don’t know.
Wildly successful people are scared all the time. Why? Because they are always doing things outside their comfort zones. They are always taking risks. Fear never goes away, they just get used to feeling it.
Everything you are going after is outside your comfort zone.
Turn toward the fear and play to win.
Take charge!
Ann Vertel
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Ann, I love your straight forward talk and down to earth personality! I have enjoyed reading your blog and emails over the last few years. Thank you for not being inhibited to tell the truth!
Thank you so much for your positive feedback!
- Ann