Did you know that over 80% of the conversation you hear around you is negative? It either tears someone or something down or is centered on the past – neither of which are productive. Examples: complaining whining traffic illness weather the “news” gossip sarcasm one-ups-manship self-deprecation things you can’t change. Most people don’t talk about [...]
If you are worried about what other people think of you, you’ll never be as successful or as happy as you were destined to be. Who are those other people? Everyone. It’s easy to cast off the opinions and judgments of strangers; you have less vested in what they think of you. It’s a whole [...]
Remember when you were a child? Everything you got to do had to come with permission from someone else – your parents, your coach, the hall monitor, the babysitter or any other grown up in charge of your behavior. If your environment was healthy, you learned to ask for permission and got it when you [...]
You deserve to be super-successful. Not because you are working hard, although I’m sure that you are. Not because you are skilled, even if you’ve perfected your craft over time. Not because of your education level, social circle, business connections, financial resources, intelligence, height, weight, or dress size. And not because you’ve earned it. You [...]
What do you mean, there are no rules? Aren’t there always rules? Nope, not always. Growing up, we were taught to follow all the rules if we wanted to succeed – in school, sports, even in our family dynamics. But now that you’re a grown up (you are, aren’t you?!) you are better suited to [...]
Boundaries are your invisible “property lines” that define who you are and protect you from the unacceptable behaviors of others. You must communicate those boundaries to others. The goal is to have others change their unacceptable behavior when they are around you. For some, the way of handling a boundary violation is to let people [...]
Last week, after a particularly challenging few months, I opened a wonderful email from a subscriber who just wanted to say “thanks” and I began to feel encouraged again. Ironically, this happens more times than could be considered coincidence and so I recognize God’s incredible handiwork. Even a coach has a less-than-perfect day and I [...]